Hi there. I hope your new year has started off on the right foot and thank you for stopping by. Well, the season for resolutions and setting goals is here. In the past, I would set some pretty elaborate targets for myself but I went through a period of realizing that I only did that to feel like I fit in with everyone else that would set targets in the beginning of the year. I never did put a lot of thought behind any of my “targets”. I just wanted to have something to talk about in case I was involved in a conversation about New Year resolutions. I’d like to think that I have come some ways since those times.
We went to a friend’s house for dinner this New Year’s Eve and during a conversation, one of the guests asked me what my goals for 2018 were. I took a moment before I answered because her question did take me back to those days when I would babble an answer just to seem like I had my stuff together when I really didn’t.
This time round, I looked back into my year for an answer that I could stand by, an answer that spoke to the lessons that I had allowed myself to learn about me. As much as I did not want to go into any details about anything because in all honesty it isn’t all clear to me just yet, I knew that I want to keep things simple. To let simplicity rule and to take it one day at a time. I have learnt these two things in 2017 after realizing that I tend to get so overwhelmed by a lot of factors within me and around me. When I get overwhelmed, I cannot bring myself to function. When I break down the factors that are consuming me into small, simple things however, I can breathe, I can regroup and move forward.
So I told her that whatever goals I had, I had kept them simple and they were goals that I would work on one day at a time. The best thing about that for me was that it was my truth and I was okay with it.
One thing that I carried over from 2017, that is a continuous process that I take on and learn about every day is loving myself. Loving myself genuinely, accepting my strengths and my flaws for what they are and being okay with all of me. I have always been my own worst critic and it wasn’t until last year that I started paying attention to this harsh side of me. Tearing myself down was a daily activity and the saddest part is, it never got me anywhere but down.
The process of creating social media content made me decide that I wanted to put a positive feel to what I put out into the world. If only to cope with how chaotic and negative my internal world had become. I guess it became a case of faking it until I made it. After some time of doing that, and choosing to consciously celebrate one of my strengths, style, on a blog platform, I started to take note of the different ways I was keeping myself in a state of constant negativity. I started to allow myself to take in positivity and consciously release negativity. It is a daily effort and some days are better than others. I like the fact that I can see and feel the progress within me and the best part is, nothing can take that away. Yay!
Well, I have taken a bit of a break from the blog and the camera lens that I talked about earlier (in my last post) is largely to blame. Turns out it needed some more fixing up so the lens I used for these photos is just a temporary one that we got for the meantime. I have taken this time to work more on getting back to being excited about having this little world that allows me to go from an idea to a finished product that I can share. It is certainly a slow process to grow in the blogging world and it is not the easiest place to find a spot for yourself. But even for this, I will take it one day at a time, keep it positive and see where it leads me…
The style part of this story started when Neil and I decided to go out for a quiet dinner, just the two of us for NYE. I figured it would be a nice opportunity to dress up so I started thinking about my options. I narrowed them down to two. I could keep it sparkly and fun in my sequined top, red skirt and brown jacket (same top, jacket and shoes combo as here), with my bone earrings, caged heels and red lip as accessories. I could also keep it mod and flirty with my little bow-tie print dress, that I featured here, (I love how soft this dress is!), with a long coat draped on my shoulders, a little bit of sparkle in my earrings, a pair of “nude” heels, a black beaded bracelet and my red lip. I had not yet decided on the bag for each outfit but at least the lipstick was done…lol.
Along the way, the plan changed to having dinner and wine at home then it went to going to a friend’s house for dinner, where it finally came to rest. Hmm, dinner and wine were the only common things in all those plans…lol. Our final plan was a pretty laid back scene so no dressing up required. I kept it pretty low key and relaxed in jeans and a t-shirt. We had fun though, so it was all good.
Fun fact about these photos, I took them myself. It all started out as an idea about what it would be like to take my own photos. So I dug a little bit into how it can be done, simplified the process for myself and I got to it. My first test subject was these two outfits and I loved the final product a lot. It occurred to me to make this into my first post in 2018. And here we are.
How are you keeping true to your plans for 2018?
As always, thank you so much for reading and I wish you a fab week ahead.